I had a really weird experience this past Thursday.
I, and a colleague, were being interviewed (on zoom) by several people looking at the possibility of launching an EFT/tapping focused online show. That was great – we had an enjoyable conversation about our backgrounds, etc etc.
Then they made a request of us.
Would we take a call from a ‘listener’ who would tell us about her problem and then help her? BUT, no tapping, no tapping talk, nothing to do with tapping was to be used. Oh my, it’s been twenty years since I had my ‘hands tied’ (so to speak)!
Well, I tapped a little under the table, then agreed to the request and the listener called in. No problem listening to their pain and struggle, clarifying what the issue is for them, what really challenges them about the situation, what they have tried so far to change it and what they would prefer to have. No problem validating and normalizing and expressing compassion for their situation. And then came the time to facilitate a solution.
I had a flashback to that moment in my psychotherapy practice twenty years ago when I suddenly realized that despite all my training, and all the efforts both my client and I had made … they were leaving my office energetically exactly the same person as they came in.
And energy always wins.
No matter how brilliant the change strategies we came up with were – as long as energetically they were the same, there wasn’t much chance the new strategies would lead to any sustainable improved outcome. In order to create safe and meaningful change on the outside – you have to create improved energy on the inside.
I’m not saying that I always tap with each client all the time. Conscious EFT™ is about knowing when to tap, when to talk, when to tap and talk, when not to tap or talk but do something else. But I certainly came out of that experience on Thursday feeling appreciation for the evolution in coaching and psychotherapy that has brought us Emotional Freedom Techniques!
Fortunately, we then had a chance to do a short ‘craving for chocolate’ exercise with the same caller. With tapping.
In three rounds, caller reported shifting from a 6/10 intense craving, “I will eat this chocolate” to a 0/10 “I can experience the warmth of satisfaction without chocolate”.
Such fun on Valentines’ Day!
Nancy
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