Your Inner Lighthouse: A Powerful Story of Conscience EFT for Practitioners

One of the great joys of my professional life is mentoring therapists, coaches and wellness practitioners after they have completed their HARNESS certification program with NeftTi.  It is such a pleasure to support them as they take their Conscious EFT learnings and apply them ever more deeply to their client work.  It’s rich learning for us both!  

And just to say, my approach to mentoring is to bring strong focus on the practitioner, who are they in relationship to their client?  What is happening in their nervous system as they are working with the client?  How is what’s happening in their personal lives showing up in their client work? The understanding is that the personal informs the professional and vice versa. 

One thing I absolutely LOVE about working energetically with Conscious EFT is that we are very often working beyond the level of conscious awareness, and thoughts and emotions surface from the depths of the clients’ being, beyond rational logical thought.  

I’ve been mentoring a psychotherapist on a regular basis for a couple of years and last week in session one of these unexpectedly simple and profoundly resonant statements surfaced. 

She said, “I’ve become a safe person for myself.”

Wow – that took both our breaths away. This declaration encapsulated not only her personal journey but also illuminated many of the essential principles of transformational client work for therapists, coaches and wellness practitioners alike. 

So many of us, clients and practitioners are not safe people for ourselves. We engage in negative self talk, berating ourselves for our perceived failures or shortcomings. We neglect to establish and enforce healthy boundaries in our personal and professional lives. We sabotage our safety by overcommitting, people pleasing, procrastinating, perfectionism and engaging in self-destructive habits with substances and relationships.  

We play out this lack of safety by avoiding our emotions or only letting them out ‘a little bit’, deciding to stuff the rest under numbing behaviours such as overeating, too much screen time or constant distractions.  

We seek and rely on external validation to feel worthy and competent, ignoring the cost of our authenticity, persistent self doubt and constant anxiety in return for the temporary pseudo safety offered by others.  

And trust. In Conscious EFT we understand that there is a parallel relationship between internal safety and trust. As our client builds greater internal safety in the early days of our work together we begin to see sparks of self identity, a burgeoning clarity of who they are and what feels good and right for them and what doesn’t. Only then does the work around setting and maintaining internal and external boundaries become safe to explore. As boundaries are established and protected, trust increases. Trust in ourselves which naturally leads to an increased capacity to trust others, and to trust that we are part of an expansive Universe.

I AM a safe person for myself.  

It’s fascinating to ask a client who is building greater self safety and trust to share a meaningful metaphor, an image of their internal experience of this. 

A common one I hear is that of a lighthouse, standing firm and tall despite the stormy seas of life. Embodying a steadfast presence within our own inner world.  

Even though life will continue to present us with challenges, uncertainties and emotional upheavals there is an inner sanctuary, a stability, strength and self assurance. An unwavering security we continue to cultivate through self awareness, self compassion and self care.  

Rather than attempting to control the uncontrollable surges of life, the lighthouse illuminates the darkness and provides clarity and guidance during those times, opening the possibility of navigating with resilience and grace.